My Wife’s Divorces and Her Family’s Perseverance Story

My Wife’s Divorces and Her Family’s  Perseverance Story
BHGAL Jun 30, 2013 12:11

My Wife’s Divorces and Her Family’s  Perseverance Story

  • Born 1966 to a small town, low class family …. Second daughter.
  • 1989 – Knocked up, married and had a daughter.
  • 1999 – Pressured by his VILLAGE   and his family, the husband was “forced” to leave to pursue a son.
  • 6 years of raising the daughter alone … not really alone, lots of family support.

2005

  • Introduced by a friend to a promising single man.. 2 month fling and remarry.
  • 3 month marriage ends when this promising guy tells her to disown the 16 year old daughter.
  • Family helped her to get rid of him.
  • Another 3 years of desperation and single motherhood.

2008

  • I met her and many other Chinese women online.
  • Truly a wonderful person is what I saw ….  We met and married in 2009
  • Her father died in 2010.. All 4 of his kids happy and with good prospects for their future.

A very typical Chinese story, except for her family.

She has 2 sisters and a baby brother (36). Her parents kept having kids until they had a son. 

Wife’s older sister (49) works property management in Hong Kong. She and her husband escaped mainland China in the mid 80’s when they were starving. He is an electrician, working in the construction industry in Hong Kong. Homeowners in Hong Kong.

My wife (46) and I remain in her hometown. I am retired and happy to help her Mom and “our” daughter (23). Daughter is now studying and working in Shenzhen. Mom is aging and the wife and I are the only remaining immediate family left in the hometown.

Younger sister (43) recently left mainland China (2011) with her son (17) to further his education. The father remains here, working hard, for his son.

The baby boy (36) is a fine young man, and is very well looked after and appreciated by his older 3 sisters. Last year he bought an apartment in Guangzhou, and then soon found a wife. He is already complaining that his wife is no match for his sisters.  We will all be training her in the coming months and years. She is your very typical little Empress. He is a marketing guy for Toyota (Japanese) in Guangzhou. Glad it’s him, not me.

While this was not her “dream” nor mine. I am very happy that my government refused to allow us to live there together as a family. I now have a new family and quite content to enjoy life in China with my dear wife, daughter and family. My son (21) back in Canada is a bit of a “pain in the ass”, but he will grow up too I hope.

I remember well, on my trip here to marry her, the joy she expressed as we walked by the old folks dancing in the park. She was so happy that she would not be alone anymore and that her daughter would be able to get more of an education. (Even though not in Canada). Smart young girl – no Empress here.

Now, today and every day, the gratitude and graciousness and love that she bestows on me are something I cherish and often just don’t believe I am worth it. Actually it does get to me sometimes; I can do it myself, dear!!! Every man’s dream???

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3 Comments

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Guest734326

Yes, this is a great story, but it's kind of frustrating that this was put on a website aimed towards English teachers. If you have a story to tell, you should at least make the effort to have basic grammar and style. The editors should be embarrassed to have this on their website.

Jul 07, 2013 12:49 Report Abuse

Guest734326

Yes, this is a great story, but it's kind of frustrating that this was put on a website aimed towards English teachers. If you have a story to tell, you should at least make the effort to have basic grammar and style. The editors should be embarrassed to have this on their website.

Jul 07, 2013 12:48 Report Abuse

DaqingDevil

Great story. Must be a lot of detail in there that is worth sharing at some stage. I suppose it shows that there's not a lot of differentiation between people's life struggles and their dreams at times regardless of the country. With family back in Canada it must be hard for you at times.

Jul 02, 2013 07:06 Report Abuse